Get to know me meme: [2/5] Relationships → Frank and Claire Underwood
"You know what Francis said to me when he proposed? I remember his exact words. He said, ‘Claire, if all you want is happiness say no. I’m not gonna give you a couple of kids and count the days until retirement. I promise you freedom from that. I promise you you’ll never be bored.’ You know he was the only man - and there were a lot of others who proposed - but he was the only one who understood me. He didn’t put me on some pedestal. He knew that I didn’t want to be adored or coddled. So he took my hand and put a ring on it. Because he knew I’d say yes."
He doesn’t dream, he has never learned to how. He doesn’t have enough heart and soul in him left. To yearn, to wish, to imagine? And yet he dreams of her and she’s destruction bringing his demise. [x]
Karol Kłos looks a bit like Bo Burnham.
Also, yes I am watching volleyball and not DW, forgive me (livestream people) but this is important, you need to understand.
Say what you want but we have some seriously hot players on our team. And yes, I’m talking about Michal Winiarski.
Ok so some of the best tactics that I’ve learned are:
1. Rectangle Breathing: Find a rectangle object somewhere around you. (doorway, window, computer screen, etc.) Trace your eyes slowly around it. When tracing the short side inhale, and while tracing the long side exhale. This is good because it helps you get more air which helps lessen anxiety/panic and it makes you concentrate which can help prevent other thoughts.
2. If you’re hyperventilating do one of these:
-Breathe in for 7 seconds and out for 10. Or in for 5, hold for 5, out for 5.
-Get a bag and place it over your mouth and nose. Inhale until all the air is sucked out and then exhale to fill it. Repeat until your breathing is under control.(Plastic is fine, as long as you don’t swallow it or something. Its also quieter.)
3. For over-thinking or intrusive thoughts: think of some obscure knowledge. Like: The types of rocks and how they’re made, the types of clouds and what they look like, every detail of your favorite memory, or what you learned in 5th grade. (or a different grade if 5th is triggering)
4. Hug yourself as tight as possible for 30 seconds. You can do something similar with a jacket if you’re in public bu wrapping it tightly around yourself. This helps with a feeling of security.
5. Sensory stimulus: find something fuzzy and rub it repeatedly, or something smooth and run your fingers over it. (I always keep something fluffy or smooth in my pocket just in case.)
6. Keep yourself grounded: observe your surroundings. Notice the color of the floor, or that chair, or the texture of the ceiling. Touch things if you can.
7. Throw yourself into what you’re doing: If you have to be doing something at that moment, use all of your brainpower to do it. Focusing on one task will help drive unwanted thoughts out.
8. Repeating a mantra: Repeat a calming phrase or phrases over and over again. Writing it down may help too. (My mantra is “It’ll be okay. I’ll be okay.” Sometimes writing that down over and over again really helps.)
9. Sometimes exercising can help. Though i would be careful with this one because bringing up your heart rate during a panic attack isn’t always helpful.
10. Methodical movement: Rocking back and forth, pacing to a beat or rhythm, or just tapping a table can often help to calm.
However scared you are, Clara, the man you’re with right now, the man I hope you are with, believe me, he is more scared than anything you can imagine right now and he… he needs you.